As I am set to visit the Philippines for my god-daughter’s wedding, I have been reflecting upon the love, pride and happiness I am feeling for her. I can only imagine what her mother would feel at this time, if she was still with us.
A mother’s love is the most pure and unconditional in this world. We form our very first intimate relationship with them and despite our experiences when we are young, this relationship goes on to define our lives and view of the world. There are no perfect relationships. Even as we grow older, we inevitably form many other bonds, some of which may have the same qualities of a mother’s love.
I believe Motherhood is a calling and not necessarily exclusive for those who have borne children. Whenever we rescue an animal from the streets or feed a hungry stranger, these are simply manifestations of this maternal love.
We often see mothers putting their children’s desires above their own, providing for their needs and never expecting anything in return. They keep giving from their ever-flowing reservoir of love, and never once regret it. As Mother’s Day rolls around this March, let’s honour this love we have received, no matter in which form, and show them how much they mean to us.
One of the best ways to do this is to strengthen our bonds of love, starting with understanding our mom’s language of love. We all have different languages of showing and receiving love. For some it may be quality time spent together, while for others it could be words of affection or the gifts of service.
Imagine if you didn’t care about going to the movies and your partner planned a date at the cinema to show his love. It would still be a gesture, but you may not find it meaningful or special enough. That’s why we need to understand each other’s language of love, to be able to show our love through gestures that hold more meaning and value for them. It’s the same with our mothers.
If you’re unsure about what their language is, I believe there is one way to show love that is the very basis of a relationship, especially the one we share with our mums — and that is respect. No matter our experiences in the past, we owe our mothers for everything they’ve done for us, from giving birth to providing food and necessities. They carried us and gave us life by putting their own life at risk, and the least we could for them is to respect them.
Speaking about gestures to show our mums how much we love them, they need not be grand at all. I feel that it’s the small details that matter more, such as paying attention to their needs, providing for them, or even just hugs, calls or replies to their messages. These speak volumes more than just a social media status update or a mother’s day card.
I truly believe that these gestures of love for our mums should be part of everyday life, not just the 21st of March. Don’t you think so too? Let’s start earlier this month to show them our gratitude in their language of love. Perhaps we could make it a 30 day plan to show our love for them every day. I think that will make it easier for us to incorporate this into our lifestyle permanently.
What you do you think? Shall we show our mums or the mother figures in our lives, how much they mean to us every day, like they did to us when we were young? I’m sure we can support and encourage each other on this journey.
In the spirit of helping our community in this quest, we’re providing free classes for mums when they accompany you at the studio. So bring your mum along to Inspire on the 21st of March and connect and indulge in the loving practice of yoga.