Learning to grow

How important would you say it is to keep growing in life? We wouldn’t settle for being in the same position at our work for more than a year or so, then why do we let the only thing that will help us grow—learning—take a back seat?

Why do we allow ourselves to be stuck in time when we know how essential learning is for growth?

In fact, it’s crucial for so much more than that. Learning keeps us humble, builds our confidence, and helps us have intellectual conversations and debates that lift our personas.

Even so, I feel our approach to learning matters a lot because there is a difference between being a student and a lifelong learner.

While a student learns with the purpose of passing exams, without caring much about the knowledge or using it in life, a lifelong learner is passionate about knowing more about things that interest them, and improve lives with it.

There are three key characteristics of a lifelong learner: curiosity, passion and empathy.

The desire to learn stems from curiosity about our world. This is closely linked with passion for the field; while empathy is the emotional impulse that fuels our passions. For me, this is about holistic wellness.

I enjoy learning more about how I can keep my body healthy; exercise, food and mental well-being are a big part of that. Hence I naturally seek out workshops, classes, podcasts, books and such in this space.

For example, recently, I was in the Philippines learning about organic farming with my family. In the same month, I also went to San Francisco to complete my 500 hours of yoga teachers training with Jason Crandell.

These experiences made me realise how much more learning enriches our lives. It’s not just social aspect of meeting people that brings us happiness, but the fact that we are learning something that will add value to our lives—that will help us grow personally and professionally—as well as help everyone around us.

So learn, make it your goal this summer. Go at it alone, with your loved ones, or with new people; study something digitally in the comfort of your home, or go to a class and learn together with peers—pick your style!

Take up a new skill for work or refresh your hobbies. Learning has become so much easier with a ton of online and offline resources, let’s take advantage of this. Moreover, with lighter workloads this season and school summer break upon us, it’s the best time of the year to start learning something new—by yourself or along with your family.

Let’s make this summer our spring. Let’s learn something new that will help us grow. Let’s commit to making every day a school day and feed our passions with more knowledge. Share what you know and what you want to learn. Let’s go on this adventure together as a community and come out more enlightened at the end of this season.

I’m so excited to hear from you! Let’s explore how we can support each other on this journey—what do you say?

Love,

Elisa

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A Summer to Remember

As you find yourself in the midst of noise

Every person sees us differently; labelling us as a mother, friend, wife, vegan, fitness enthusiast, dog lover; the list goes on. The truth is, we are so much more than that. It doesn’t mean some of those aspects aren’t true, just that there are many more things that define us than a limited bunch of labels.

Over time, being seen in the light of these labels, we often forget that we have other characteristics, values and interests that ring truer than what a label portrays. More importantly, as we mature, our values and truths get better defined, and sometimes even challenged to add more depth to our character.

Which is why, who we thought we were a few years ago, might not necessarily reflect who we really are today. Knowing ourselves and realising the shifting values helps us from feeling lost. In fact, it allows us to change the aspects we no longer agree or connect with. The journey to self-exploration is also a journey to redefining ourselves.

While this journey can be emotionally overwhelming at times, the results are so much worth it. Plus, as we step into the summer, beginning with a lovely week-long Eid holiday, it is the perfect time to reflect on our sense of self. Ask yourself how well do you know yourself, and dig deeper to understand yourself better.

Make the best of this quieter season—go on this adventure to know and fall in love with who you are. You might find an answer in your roots, or your current surroundings. Personally, I am taking a trip to the Philippines. My parents were business people with farm lands. I’m going to explore organic agriculture so that we can bring our farm back to life. I see this as going back to my roots to remember who I was, the culture and values I grew up with, and how this core part of me has evolved to make me who I am today.

Our past does not define us, nor should it. However, it is a great starting point for self-exploration. It helps us acknowledge what we have experienced, reminds us of the good, and helps make peace with what we may be struggling with.

Here are some tips to help you on this journey, that I am taking with me:

  1. Surrender to the feelings of discomfort, anxiety and uncertainty.
  2. Make peace with your insecurities. Allow yourself to find your inner strength to look at the positive aspects of life.
  3. Be a friend to yourself. Support your dreams and aspirations, while being compassionate to the harder times. Put yourself first, look after what your heart desires, and go and get it for yourself!
  4. Forget about perfectionism, it is unattainable. We only give ourselves more hardship by running after something that keeps going further away.
  5. Analyse your emotions, your actions, your week, your daily routine. It will offer clues to your triggers of discomfort, and give you the opportunity to realise and improve those aspects of your life.
  6. Explore what sparks joy in your heart. It could be something unexpected, or it could be something you’ve always enjoyed, yet have forgotten about.
  7. Be grateful for everything in your life. Ask “why this is happening for me” instead of “…to me.” Welcoming positivity in your life will set the stage for a happier journey to knowing who you really are.

Beyond the likes and dislikes, labels and aspirations, lies our understanding of our true selves. Make this a summer to remember by doing this for yourself. Let’s go on this journey together this summer, support each other in this significant exploration, and have something deep and meaningful make our 2019 memorable.

I am here if you need to talk. Let’s help each other build stronger relations and a closer community. If you’ve already been on this journey recently, I would love to hear your insights. And if you have any questions, please share them, a lot of us might have the same.

As gracefully as this month of Ramadan comes to an end, let another journey begin.

Eid Mubarak!

Love,

Elisa

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Slow Down, Live More!

When was the last time you felt completely calm; the last time you had nowhere to be
or to go; the last time you took it slow? Was it the sunset you watched while on
vacation, or the time you saw stars shooting across the night sky?  

I personally feel that society today puts a lot of undue emphasis on multitasking and being busy, implying it’s the best way to live a full and meaningful life. In my mind, this
thinking is deeply flawed. If one can’t find time to relax, enjoy a massage or even a cup of coffee on a quiet morning without feeling guilty of unproductivity, what quality of
life is one really living?  

The world is so full of worries and unending to-do lists that one finds it hard to simply catch a break. So much so, that to just stop the brain from thinking a thousand miles
an hour about a million things, many end up mindlessly watching TV, even if only to tire the brain enough to fall asleep.  

Such is the world of hyper-productivity that we live in. It’s all about efficiency and time saving. Yet the time we save seems to slip out of our hands.   We’re already thinking
about the next 10 tasks before completing the one at hand. Multitasking and going
about life’s chores; searching for moments of joy… if only we could learn to find it in
the very moment by noticing what’s going on around us and being grateful for where
we are.   I’ve discovered a few things that help me slow down. Meditation is naturally
one of them, so I have incorporated the practice into my daily routine. Other things I do involve being focused on the moment. For example, when I cook, I am only thinking
about the dish I’m preparing, noticing the changing colours and fragrances; when I
have my afternoon tea while lounging on the couch, I just watch the sun and wind play with the greens of my garden. These small things give me the space to calm down and revitalise.  

The other thing I’ve found to be very helpful is doing everyday things slowly; say no to the rush and take twice as long just to allow yourself to be in the moment and observe more. It’s challenging, especially when you have children and a family to attend to.
Nevertheless, this makes it more important for you to slow down and find time for yourself. Only when you put a pause to reset and re-energise, can you truly be in a state to connect with your family and share moments of joy.  

Now that Ramadan is around the corner, I’m sure most of us will enjoy the shorter
working days. I think it is the perfect opportunity to slow ourselves down to enjoy the
little things in life a little more. Perhaps take that sunset walk on the beach you’ve been meaning to go for, read a book that’s catching dust on your bookshelf, or simply notice the world around you; see the afternoon sunlight dance into your home while enjoying a nice cup of tea — or a cold drink, considering the weather.  

We often say that joy is found in the small details. I encourage you to take the
opportunity of this entire month to slow down. Take time to appreciate and show
gratitude for the small gestures of kindness and love that surround us. And I believe
that putting kindness and love into the world will only make it bounce back into your
life, adding to the many cherishable moments we all are blessed with.  

Join me this month to slow down, to really savour the gift of being alive and all that
we are grateful for! I’d love to know your ideas about how we could all slow down to
appreciate life a little more. I look forward to hearing about your experiences and the
things you enjoyed during this blessed month.  

Ramadan Kareem!
 
Love,  
Elisa

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Cleanse your heart, empower your soul

As one of the busiest months of the year, March sees many of us having a full social calendar. Whether it is holding and attending events, renewing contracts, balancing accounts — or recently, figuring out how VAT works. However, it remains one of my favourite months of the year, because I get to celebrate my birthday. This year, it was extra special as I witnessed my niece getting married to the love of her life, and got to see my entire family.

As some of you know, just after my birthday, I stayed the night at the hospital. I am in good health now, but the experience gave me the space to realise how much stress and negativity we tend to absorb during this time of the year, even just by witnessing.

With the closing financial year and events galore, we think about bonuses, stability, responsibilities, and so much more. All this stress also causes emotions to run high, offline as well as online. Some of you may have noticed angry social media posts, harsher reactions, and other negative stimuli—all of which affect us on multiple levels.

On the heels of March, I invite you to take account of your past month and address it. Cleansing ourselves mentally, emotionally, physically as well as spiritually is the best way to move forward.

Here are some of the methods I’ve found to be particularly helpful:

Mental Cleansing

  • Practise mindfulness: One of the best ways to relax, improve understanding and awareness is to be mindful. From here, you can take steps to improving your overall wellness.
  • Address your stress: Whether it is a day at the spa, a staycation, or simply talking to friends or your life coach, know how you can reduce the stress you’re facing and take action.
  • Realistically prioritise and organise: Make the 24 hours in the day more productive by making a plan and sticking to it. Less time worrying leads to increased happiness and achievements.

Emotional Cleansing

  • Avoid social media and upsetting TV: These are two platforms where the most negative content lives – it affects us on a deeper level than we can imagine. Try eliminating these for a few days, or unfollowing pages that post emotionally challenging content.
  • Express and share higher vibration emotions: Smile, laugh and share love, happiness, positivity with the world. It is infectious and sharing only leads to you experiencing even more of these happy emotions.
  • Practise gratitude: We all have constants in our lives, such as people or events that we are grateful for, no matter how our day is going. Try recalling them every morning and night, and I’m sure it will help counter the negativity and help you stay content.

Physical Cleansing

  • Eat better: Our bodies are made to crave sugar, fats and carbs when we’re stressed. Keep a check on your intake and eat a healthier, balanced diet.
  • Stretch and move: Sweating is another way of detoxing our bodies. It also produced a range of stress-combating effects. As we say, 100% prespiration = 100% inspiration.
  • Sleep: When was the last time you got a proper 8-hour rest at night? Sleep is one of the best and easiest way to rejuvenate our body and our brain healthy. So do try to sleep well by practising better sleep hygiene.

Spiritual Cleansing

  • Action kindness: Give a compliment, donate to charity, forgive someone’s mistake, help somebody, feed a stray—there are thousands of ways we can be kind every day. It brings us happiness and fulfillment, and creates ripple effects that make our world a better place to live in.
  • Meditate: Heal and rejuvenate your spirit with the help of guided meditations or higher vibration music with binaural beats. They are excellent to meditate to and easily available online. 
  • Have faith: The best way to cleanse our souls is to practise positivity and optimism. In other words, fight your fears by having faith in the goodness of people, and believe in better outcomes.

There are many other ways in which you can cleanse your mind, heart, body and spirit. The first and foremost is to realise and know that you need the detox, and then from there, it’s a practise you’ll fall in love with!

When we take action to cleanse our minds of all negativity, yet not hate the emotions it brings, when we accept all experiences as part of life, yet make an effort to stay positive and share our love, kindness and happiness with the world, we start to make a difference—to ourselves, the lives of those around us, as well as the world. Every journey starts from within, and it is our responsibility to keep going higher on the path of positivity.

Pour in your experiences, realisations, questions and stories about how your month was, how you detox, and the way it makes you feel. I am looking forward to hearing from you.

Love,

Elisa

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In honour of the purest, most unconditional love

As I am set to visit the Philippines for my god-daughter’s wedding, I have been reflecting upon the love, pride and happiness I am feeling for her. I can only imagine what her mother would feel at this time, if she was still with us.

A mother’s love is the most pure and unconditional in this world. We form our very first intimate relationship with them and despite our experiences when we are young, this relationship goes on to define our lives and view of the world. There are no perfect relationships. Even as we grow older, we inevitably form many other bonds, some of which may have the same qualities of a mother’s love.

I believe Motherhood is a calling and not necessarily exclusive for those who have borne children. Whenever we rescue an animal from the streets or feed a hungry stranger, these are simply manifestations of this maternal love.

We often see mothers putting their children’s desires above their own, providing for their needs and never expecting anything in return. They keep giving from their ever-flowing reservoir of love, and never once regret it. As Mother’s Day rolls around this March, let’s honour this love we have received, no matter in which form, and show them how much they mean to us.

One of the best ways to do this is to strengthen our bonds of love, starting with understanding our mom’s language of love. We all have different languages of showing and receiving love. For some it may be quality time spent together, while for others it could be words of affection or the gifts of service.

Imagine if you didn’t care about going to the movies and your partner planned a date at the cinema to show his love. It would still be a gesture, but you may not find it meaningful or special enough. That’s why we need to understand each other’s language of love, to be able to show our love through gestures that hold more meaning and value for them. It’s the same with our mothers.

If you’re unsure about what their language is, I believe there is one way to show love that is the very basis of a relationship, especially the one we share with our mums — and that is respect. No matter our experiences in the past, we owe our mothers for everything they’ve done for us, from giving birth to providing food and necessities. They carried us and gave us life by putting their own life at risk, and the least we could for them is to respect them.

Speaking about gestures to show our mums how much we love them, they need not be grand at all. I feel that it’s the small details that matter more, such as paying attention to their needs, providing for them, or even just hugs, calls or replies to their messages. These speak volumes more than just a social media status update or a mother’s day card.

I truly believe that these gestures of love for our mums should be part of everyday life, not just the 21st of March. Don’t you think so too? Let’s start earlier this month to show them our gratitude in their language of love. Perhaps we could make it a 30 day plan to show our love for them every day. I think that will make it easier for us to incorporate this into our lifestyle permanently.  

What you do you think? Shall we show our mums or the mother figures in our lives, how much they mean to us every day, like they did to us when we were young? I’m sure we can support and encourage each other on this journey.

In the spirit of helping our community in this quest, we’re providing free classes for mums when they accompany you at the studio. So bring your mum along to Inspire on the 21st of March and connect and indulge in the loving practice of yoga.

Love,

Elisa

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The importance of Now!

Recent events have reminded me that NOW is the time to tell the special people in your life that you love them. But, most importantly, NOW is the time to embody those words into action, as tomorrow might not come.

If you need any extra motivation, with February being the month of love, now is the time to turn the word love into a verb, a word of action. 

As I have written before, it all starts with self-love; the realisation that you are complete, you are enough as you are. Every journey starts from within; and this ability of self love is the first step to truly loving others and, more importantly, accepting the love we receive, which in my opinion is the very foundation of any relationship.

A lot of you know that John and I share a deep-seated passion for fitness, and Inspire is a manifestation of that. What is less known is that we actually first met at the gym and connected over keeping fit. While this may be the story of many couples today, I truly believe that it goes a lot deeper than simply wanting to remain in shape. 

Developing this self love is what brought me to yoga. As I learnt to focus on my breath, I learnt to look inside me, instead of finding love and happiness outside. I was able to peel back the layers to truly understand and love myself for all my qualities, flaws and imperfections — unconditionally. And this helped me to strive to do the same with everyone around me. 

The practice of yoga, with its calm and peaceful moves, has instilled us with love that inspires unity within our community. We must translate this into action. When our actions are inspired from kindness and a loving heart, we do our bit to make our home and our community a better place to live in, where everyone feels loved, cared for and happy. 

I believe this is one of the most important ways in which we contribute towards a better world. In today’s increasingly divided planet, now is the time to connect, now is the time for unity and now is the time for turning love into action. 

Sometimes, all it takes is a phone call or simple message. Technology has made this so much easier today, let’s make the most of it. Let’s fill this world with love and inspire everyone to do the same!

Why not start today?

I’m always looking forward to your thoughts and stories. Please feel free to share and continue spreading the positivity of love to our Inspire community. 

With love,

Elisa

P.S. As I was writing this Celine Dion’s Power of Love was played on TV and just as I was wrapping up, Craig David is being interviewed about his new album The time is Now! I think the universe is talking to me ☺

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Live your legacy

 

“Happiness and fulfilment do not come from pleasure but from meaning,

from the pursuit of a noble purpose.” Fred Kofman

   This year marked our 10 year marriage anniversary, and ironically it was the first year that we spent Christmas apart. Silver lining: I’ve had more time to reflect on 2018 and build my plan for the coming year. As I reflect back on this year, I am grateful for the milestones we’ve achieved — from the studio completing 4 years and entering the second year of supporting teacher trainings, to starting our Live Awake events. Naturally, there were challenges we faced, however, with the continued support from you and the rest of the community, we’re glad to see Inspire still standing strong.

   Recently a friend asked me why I still keep the studio running in this economic climate … and yes, there are many closing down. But our approach to the studio is more about providing a sustainable space for the wellness of the community. As you all know, Inspire was born from our shared passion for health and fitness. John and I both feel that this is essential to help people lead better lives, and this is our way of giving back. Plus, we feel responsible for the people we employ, the teachers we support and all of you, for whom we strive to provide a warm, supportive place to feel right at home as soon as you step in — in fact, we’re renovating the place to improve your experience.

   You are all like our family, and for us, it’s about the blessings we receive. Moreover, offering a place where people can come together, connect, find support and get fit is what drives me each day; it’s the legacy I want to build — it’s the legacy I want to live — every day.

   I’ve come to realise that to make a difference and leave a legacy, we first need to live it — start by knowing what our purpose in life is, and actively make choices to live in line with it. Our purpose in life goes beyond ourselves for the betterment of those around us; it touches the lives of others in meaningful ways. It’s not about what the world needs, but what makes you come alive and be happy. It’s also important to realise that our purpose may change from time to time, and it’s okay if you don’t know what yours is because it takes time and effort to find where your true passions lie. To help me define my personal mission statement, I’ve found answering the following helps, perhaps you can start with them too:

• Your calling: What inspires you the most and makes you feel you were born to accomplish in this world? Doing this feeds your soul and brings you utmost joy in this world.

• Your values: What are the principles you live by and do not compromise on? Having them direct every aspect of your life, even in the toughest times, defines how you live and what you stand for.

• Your character: What forms the basis of your personality and moral fibre? What makes you, you? Define your character, it is what remains after the charisma fades away.

   Once you have defined your purpose and what you want to achieve, I highly recommend that you plan for it, and make conscious educated choices and decisions that support and further your purpose. Break your journey down in multiple milestones, this will help ensure you stay on your path and gain a sense of achievement in what you’re working towards.

To keep track of the bigger picture, it is essential that your daily decisions are consistently taken in alignment with your life’s purpose. I think that in order to leave our imprint on the world — whilst still living — we need to embody our purpose and allow it to give meaning to our lives. I truly believe that our purpose is an extension of who we are, what we care about — and it starts with how we live today.

   So do what you love, find your calling, uphold your principles, truly live your life with the purpose that defines you — and believe me when I say this: you are making your mark in this enormous world with the lives you touch, every single day!

   Let’s welcome 2019 with a plan for our life’s purpose and live our legacy. We’re always here to support you and wish lots of success, happiness and health this new year!

Elisa
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Allow yourself to live wholeheartedly

Self-esteem is said to be crucial in leading successful lives. Yet, self-worth—a much more important aspect—is often left out of the conversation. It is this, the feeling of being worthy of love and belonging, which is vital to leading contented lives.

Success stories in the media paint pictures of ideal ways to live. Over time, we have started measuring our self-worth by how far we meet the expectations of society, family, friends and colleagues. When unable, our natural response is to feel shame; this painful feeling of believing we are flawed and therefore unworthy—as explained by Dr. Brené Brown, a well-known researcher—is the no. 1 obstacle to living wholeheartedly.

In her book, Daring Greatly, she writes, “Wholehearted living is about engaging in our lives from a place of worthiness. […] It’s going to bed at night thinking: yes, I am imperfect and vulnerable and sometimes afraid, but that doesn’t change the truth that I am worthy of love and belonging.”

We are all imperfect, and accepting this will help us lead more gratifying and happy lives. Following are 10 guidelines that can help overcome the need for perfection, develop the courage to let go of fear and shame, and foster compassion for ourselves.

  1. Practice Authenticity:

Let’s not dwell upon what people think and stay true to ourselves.

  1. Find Self-Compassion:

Let’s relieve ourselves of perfectionism, it is the first step to feeling we are enough the way we are.

  1. Cultivate Resilience:

We are stronger than we think. So let’s learn to cultivate a hopeful attitude and believe in our ability to overcome the challenges in life.

  1. Build Gratitude and Joy:

Even in challenging times, we have the ability to feel joy. So practice being grateful, and let this change in perspective bring happiness into our lives.

  1. Trust Your Intuition and Faith:

We live in an uncertain world with very few things under our control. Let’s focus on doing them right and not let negativity cloud our actions.

  1. Foster Creativity:

We all possess unique talents. So let’s nurture them and feed our souls. Let’s not compare, because that will leave us feeling not enough.

  1. Protect Your Play and Rest:

Our net worth does not define our worthiness. Society puts productivity on a pedestal, but we need to remember that we need rest and play to rejuvenate.

  1. Don’t Fear Calm and Stillness:

Being calm means being aware of our anxieties. It is hard to do away with them completely; however, with yoga and meditation we can learn to take control of our emotions to deal better with complicated situations.

  1. Pursue Meaningful Work:

We may not all be able to practice our passions in our careers, but with a little bit of time management, we can still do things that satisfy our souls and bring value to society.

  1. Laugh, Sing, and Dance:

Let’s remember to laugh, not take ourselves too seriously, and let go of being in control. It can make a world of difference.

I wholeheartedly believe that we all are worthy of being loved and feeling a sense of belonging. Each of the above guidelines is an on-going practice to live wholeheartedly. They have been developed by Brown to help us let go of our desire to conform to the expectations of society and our ideals of perfectionism; so that we can accept ourselves as being self-sufficient.

I hope you feel like you belong when you come to Inspire, as we work towards building an ever-loving, safe and supportive community. What do you think about wholehearted living and is there a particular point above that resonates most with you? I’d love to know! Please feel free to share, I’ll be looking forward to your story.

Elisa

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Age gracefully with health

We’ve all heard about aging gracefully, which generally means accepting the conditions of old age such as weaknesses and acting in a more mellow and stereotypical manner. However, as life expectancy is increasing across the world and living up to 80, 90 and even 100 years of age is the new normal, I strongly believe that aging healthily has become far more important.

I remember as a child, whilst playing, we would impersonate old people as being frail, walking slowly with a hunched back, and not being able to lift much, let alone do house chores. That was the case then, when our parents would take care of our grandparents as they grew older. But today, we are embracing the nuclear family way of living and don’t expect or wish to be dependent upon our children. Plus, living like the stereotype I used to play, for 20, 30 or even 40 years seems like a nightmare, don’t you agree?

What makes me feel sad is seeing young people in their 20s experiencing body aches, lacking proper nutrition, being stressed out with the pressure of work and unrealistic social media perceptions, and already starting to get chronic conditions that were unheard of for that age until just a decade ago. On the other hand, I get inspired by all of you who live an active lifestyle, have strong bodies, take care of yourselves and are on your way to blossoming into old age.

The world is seeing this phenomenon and has coined the word ‘perennials’ to describe those of you who live life to the fullest and are physically and mentally active no matter your age. In fact, I believe that it’s not just physical exercise and nutrition, but also being active, caring for yourself and being mentally and socially engaged that prolong those years and the quality of your life.

Let us all take such a comprehensive view to aging, to live happily and not have to depend upon helpers or our children to get by, but see them as luxuries and sources of happiness to live comfortably. I strongly feel that our health and complete well-being are our core strengths to live up to our standards, no matter the number of candles on our birthday cakes.

So let’s eat nutritious food, engage and maintain our social lives, live in safe and supportive communities, and do what we love every day. Let’s challenge and change the world’s stereotype of old age, to one of being active, smart, full of life, and role models to the younger generation. Let this change begin with us and our thinking. Let’s redefine what aging gracefully means to us and not let anything stop us from doing what we love – physically, mentally, or spiritually.

Do you want to join me on this journey? Tell me what you think about aging and your ideas on how we could live healthier lives with our young minds.

Elisa

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Holding Space for Ourselves and Our Loved ones

Recently, my husband John and I celebrated our 10-year anniversary in Thailand, where we repeated our vows to each other. One of them was, “I’ll always be there for you”. I couldn’t help but recall teaching from yoga, where we call this ‘holding space’, and you might have heard me or other teachers at Inspire talk about it.

It’s like providing the feeling of safety by being there, however it is more complex than that. If you’ve ever said to someone that you love him or that she’s your best friend because they “didn’t do anything but were just there for you in times of need”, I’m sure you’ve experienced someone holding space for you. In essence, it means that a person is simply there for you and allows you to express your feelings and go through the experience of pain, hurt and suffering without judgement or forceful help. Those last two words are what differentiate sympathy from compassion. As humans, it’s not easy to see suffering and not do anything to help alleviate it, and that’s because it affects our emotions and brings our uncomfortable memories to the surface. That’s what makes holding space so much more difficult as one needs to be selfless in the suffering of another.

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